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The video narrates a compelling story of a woman's childhood in China, highlighting the complex and strained relationships within her family, particularly involving her enigmatic mother. The narrator recounts living with her younger brother and their superstitious father in her uncle and aunt’s house in Ningbo. Despite the household's adherence to tradition and respect, their father's mysterious and cautionary tales hinted at deeper family tensions and secrets, especially concerning their mother, who was referred to as a ghost—not dead, but forbidden to speak of.
As the father fell seriously ill, the narrator recalls a series of poignant and traumatic experiences, including the harsh rebukes from an aunt and a distressing village funeral incident. The arrival of the mother was pivotal; seen as indifferent and unfamiliar, her presence evoked mixed emotions in the narrator—a blend of fear, tenderness, and confusion as familial roles and connections were questioned.
This tumultuous relationship is further explored through moments of physical and emotional pain, such as a severe burn from boiling soup that led to the narrator's mother's diligent care during recovery. The ultimate act of maternal sacrifice is highlighted during their father’s dying days when the mother cuts a piece of her arm to make medicinal soup, underscoring deep-seated familial love and duty.
Through these intense experiences, the narrator begins to understand and witness her mother’s profound compassion and sacrifice, transforming her initial feelings of confusion and fear into love. The narrative emphasizes themes of familial duty, respect, traumatic memory, and the powerful, often complicated, bond between mother and child.
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In this part of the video, the narrator recounts her childhood in China and the mysterious ways her family spoke about her mother. Although her mother was referred to as a ghost, this did not imply she was dead; rather, she was someone they were forbidden to discuss. This part of the narrator’s life begins in her uncle and aunt’s house in Ningbo, where she lived with her father and younger brother. The narrator describes how her father used superstitions to protect them, saying they were born from a stupid goose to devalue them in the eyes of ghosts who might steal precious children. The story then shifts to 1923 when her father fell severely ill, leading to frightening interactions where he shared strange, cautionary tales with her. He narrated one story about a greedy girl who poisoned herself, and another about a disobedient girl whose brains poured out from her ears due to her defiance. These macabre stories were meant to warn and impart lessons. Before losing her ability to speak, her father gave a final caution never to say her mother’s name to avoid dishonoring her.
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In this part of the video, the speaker reflects on their childhood experiences in a troubled household. They describe the imposing presence of their father’s portrait, which seemed to watch them constantly, instilling a sense of constant surveillance and pressure to behave. The speaker contrasts their own fearful disposition with their younger brother’s carefree attitude, noting how he would joyfully ride his bicycle and play in the courtyard.
However, this happiness was shattered when their father fell seriously ill and an incident during a village funeral procession deeply affected them. Their brother’s laughter at an inappropriate moment led to a harsh rebuke from their bad-tempered Aunt, highlighting the family’s strict adherence to respect and tradition. The argument escalates with accusations about their mother’s behavior and status, revealing underlying family tensions and the impact of their mother’s departure. This segment concludes with the speaker beginning to grasp the painful lessons imparted by their father about respect and familial duty.
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In this segment, the narrator reflects on her complex feelings towards her mother, who is portrayed as carefree and indifferent to the family’s hardships. The scene transitions to the mother’s arrival at the house, where she is described as a taller, stranger presence compared to the aunt. Her demeanor is compared unfavorably to intrusive, foreign missionary ladies. Despite the attempt to remain unnoticed, the narrator’s presence is discovered, and a tense interaction unfolds as the mother approaches the dying father’s bed. The narrator observes her mother closely, noting the similarities in their appearance and feeling confused by her mother’s familiar yet elusive voice.
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In this part of the video, the narrator recalls a touching and emotional encounter with her mother. Despite being warned by her father not to speak her mother’s name, the narrator stands silently as her mother loosens her braids and brushes her hair. The mother affectionately scolds her, asking if she’s been a good daughter, creating a moment that evokes a mix of fear and tenderness within the narrator. The mother then touches a scar under the narrator’s chin, triggering vivid memories of a past event. The narrator reminisces about a childhood dinner where a tall woman, presumably her mother, appeared unexpectedly. This encounter led to chaos at the dinner table as her father and others reacted strongly to her mother’s presence, revealing tension and complicated family dynamics. The mother cries out for her daughter, reflecting deep maternal longing and sadness.
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In this part of the video, a traumatic incident is described where a child suffers severe burns from duck boiling soup spilling over her neck. This leads to intense physical pain and emotional trauma. The child hears her parents’ voices – her mother’s crying and later her father’s voice warning her that if she does not recover, her mother will forget her. The father’s words compel the child to fight for survival. Throughout her recovery, her mother attends to her wounds daily. Over two years, the scar heals and becomes pale, and the child loses memory of her mother, illustrating how wounds can close off and conceal the underlying pain.
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In this part of the video, the speaker reflects on their relationship with their mother and describes a poignant, transformational moment. While initially the woman by Papa’s bed was not the mother of their memory, the speaker came to love her through understanding and witnessing her deep compassion and sacrifice. During Papa’s dying time, the speaker dressed respectfully and stood at the foot of the bed, quietly observing as their mother engaged in a traditional act of healing. The mother cut a piece of flesh from her arm and put it into a medicinal soup to attempt to cure Papa, demonstrating profound pain and a deep, ancestral connection. This act vividly illustrated the depth of a daughter’s honor and love for her mother, highlighting the theme that true connection and memory are found beneath the surface, within their very bones, transcending physical pain and scars.