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The video, presented by Sam Vaknin, explores the psychological concept of intermittent reinforcement, particularly within the context of abusive and dysfunctional relationships. Intermittent reinforcement involves a victim experiencing a mix of negative behavior—such as cruelty, abuse, or indifference—interspersed with sporadic positive treatment, like affection or rewards. This erratic behavior creates confusion and trauma, leading to traumatic bonding, where the victim becomes psychologically attached to their abuser, often feeling that only the abuser can relieve their pain.
Vaknin delves into specific psychological phenomena like false hope and approach-avoidance behavior, commonly seen in borderline personality disorder (BPD), which also contribute to intermittent reinforcement. He discusses how individuals with BPD create a cycle of approach and avoidance due to their anxieties about engulfment and abandonment, resulting in conflicting messages that bind the victim to the abuser.
The speaker further breaks down different reinforcement schedules used by abusers:
– **Fixed Interval Schedule:** Rewards are given at predictable times, leading victims to develop a tolerance to abuse.
– **Variable Interval Schedule:** Rewards are given unpredictably, increasing dependency and anticipation for sporadic kindness.
– **Fixed Ratio Schedule:** Rewards come after a set number of responses, driving the victim to respond more to gain the reward, akin to Pavlovian conditioning.
– **Variable Ratio Schedule:** Rewards are given after an unpredictable number of responses, creating a state of instability and heightened susceptibility to manipulation.
Overall, intermittent reinforcement is shown to have severe detrimental effects on victims, transforming them into a "zombified" state, making them easier to control. The video underscores the complex and damaging nature of such reinforcement in abusive relationships.
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In this part of the video, the speaker, Sam Vaknin, introduces the topic of intermittent reinforcement. Vaknin explains that intermittent reinforcement is a prevalent phenomenon in various relationships, not only in abusive, dysfunctional, or pathological ones. He defines intermittent reinforcement as a situation where a receiving party (often referred to as a victim) experiences a pattern of behavior from another party that includes both negative and sporadically positive treatment. The negative behavior might include cruelty, abuse, or indifference, while the occasional positive behavior involves displays of extreme affection or rewards. This erratic mix of treatment is described as very unsettling for the recipient.
00:03:00
In this part of the video, the speaker delves into the psychological concept of intermittent reinforcement, particularly as it pertains to experiences of abuse and inconsistent signals of love and affection. The key point is how mixed messages—oscillating between love and abuse—create confusion and trauma, leading to traumatic bonding. The speaker explains that intermittent reinforcement is often oversimplified and should be understood as a more complex and deep phenomenon. Two specific phenomena are highlighted: false hope, where hope is given and then withdrawn repeatedly, and approach-avoidance behavior, commonly seen in borderline personality disorder, which also serves as a form of intermittent reinforcement.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses the behavior patterns of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD), particularly their approach-avoidance cycle driven by engulfment anxiety and abandonment anxiety. They explain how people with BPD give conflicting messages, such as “I hate you, don’t leave me” or “I love you, I want you dead,” which result in intermittent reinforcement. This reinforcement creates a trauma bond between the abuser and the victim, making the victim believe only the abuser can relieve their pain. The speaker outlines different types of reinforcement schedules, focusing on the fixed interval schedule, where the victim receives positive reinforcement, like a reward, at consistent intervals, maintaining the cycle of harassment and reward.
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In this part of the video, the speaker explains different types of intermittent reinforcement used by abusers to manipulate their victims. Initially, they discuss the fixed interval schedule, where rewards like affection or attention are given at predictable times, leading victims to develop tolerance to abuse over time. Then, they explore the variable interval schedule, where rewards are given at unpredictable times, making the victim more addicted to the abuser’s sporadic kindness. This type creates a heightened anticipation and dependence on the reward. Lastly, the speaker describes the fixed ratio schedule, where the abuser provides affection after a set number of responses, driving the victim to exhibit more responsive behaviors to gain the reward, likening this to Pavlovian conditioning.
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In this segment, the video discusses different reinforcement schedules used by abusers to manipulate their victims. It explains how victims come to anticipate and eventually crave pain because it leads to a reward. The “variable ratio schedule,” a type of intermittent reinforcement where rewards are given after an unpredictable number of responses, is compared to the “fixed ratio schedule,” where rewards come after a set number of responses. This unpredictable reinforcement method keeps the victim in a state of instability, making them more susceptible to manipulation. The segment highlights the detrimental effects on the victim’s body and mind, ultimately leading to a “zombified” state, which facilitates further control by the abuser. The speaker concludes by mentioning an interview on trauma bonding available on their channel.
00:15:00
In this part of the video, the speaker apologizes and bids farewell, indicating the end of the session.