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Lee Hammock's video focuses on whether one should change their phone number or email when escaping a narcissistic or toxic relationship. He acknowledges the challenge, especially when the number has been used for many years and points out that abusers often find indirect ways to contact, making the process exhausting. He suggests changing contact information as a method to block the abuser and reduce anxiety, while also emphasizing the need for careful distribution of new information to avoid mutual acquaintances passing it on. Setting boundaries and possibly involving law enforcement are recommended strategies, although not always effective. The video concludes with Hammock promoting his coaching services and expressing gratitude to his audience.
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In this part of the video, Lee Hammock addresses the question of whether one should change their phone number when leaving a narcissistic or toxic relationship. He acknowledges the challenge, especially if the number has been in use for many years. Despite efforts such as blocking the abuser’s number, they often find ways to contact through various means, including using new numbers or friends’ phones. Lee points out that some advise against changing the number to avoid feeling like the abusive person has “won.” Others suggest continuously blocking the calls or involving the police, though law enforcement may not always be helpful in these situations. The frustration of proving harassment can make the process even more challenging. He notes that while some narcissists might eventually stop if they receive no response, this isn’t always the case.
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In this part of the video, the speaker discusses the persistence of certain individuals who continue to try and communicate despite being blocked repeatedly. The situation is likened to hacking through a jungle with a machete, where each attempt to make contact is another obstacle. Sometimes these persistent individuals use indirect methods, like referencing shared past experiences, to avoid incriminating themselves while making their presence known. The speaker emphasizes that these interactions can be exhausting and suggests that sometimes the best solution is to change contact information, such as phone numbers or email addresses, to prevent further harassment.
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In this part of the video, the speaker discusses the pros and cons of changing your phone number when dealing with a toxic or narcissistic person. They emphasize that changing your number only to give it to the toxic individual is counterproductive and can lead to frustration and a shame spiral. The speaker advises not to change your number if there’s a chance you’ll give it out again, as it defeats the purpose. However, they also argue that changing your number can be a way to release old, negative energy and reduce anxiety by preventing random calls or texts from the toxic person, creating a clean slate for healing and personal growth.
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In this part of the video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of changing your phone number or email address to protect yourself from a toxic or narcissistic ex. They stress that if you do change your contact information, you must be careful about who you share it with, especially avoiding giving it to mutual friends who might accidentally pass it on to your ex. The speaker highlights the necessity of setting boundaries to prevent the ex from contacting you again, which could restart cycles of stress and harassment. They also mention the possibility of pressing charges if harassment continues after changing your number. Finally, the speaker shares a personal anecdote about changing their phone number due to spam calls, not from a toxic ex, and briefly mentions their profession as a real estate agent in North Carolina.
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In this part of the video, the speaker promotes their coaching sessions and support group available over Zoom, highlighting the “mental healers” private sessions and courses. They encourage viewers to subscribe to the channel to reach more people and provide links to additional videos, playlists, and resources aimed at helping individuals heal and understand their experiences. The speaker expresses gratitude to the audience and signs off, promising to see them in the next video.