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Tais Gibson, co-owner and creator of the Personal Development School, discusses how the "phantom ex" phenomenon relates to the fearful avoidant attachment style, explaining it as a subconscious strategy used to create space in current relationships. When people fantasize about an ex, it indicates unmet needs that aren't being fulfilled in the present relationship. To address this, Gibson suggests identifying these unmet needs, communicating them to current partners, or finding ways to meet them independently. By understanding what needs were fulfilled in past relationships, individuals can develop strategies to improve their current relationship dynamics and personal connections. Additionally, Gibson mentions a seven-day free trial period at the Personal Development School, where viewers can access courses, webinars, and community events to further their understanding and development.
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In this part of the video, Tais Gibson, co-owner and creator of the Personal Development School, discusses the concept of the “phantom ex” in relation to the fearful avoidant attachment style. She explains that she had previously made a video about the phantom ex for dismissive avoidants and realized she left out an important detail: the phantom ex acts as a subconscious strategy to create space and act as a barrier in current relationships. Tais elaborates on why this happens, the root causes, and the significance of the phantom ex. She clarifies that the subconscious mind resorts to fantasizing about the past or the future when it cannot get its needs met in the present. This behavior reflects unmet needs within the current relationship.
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In this part of the video, the speaker discusses unfulfilled needs in current relationships, suggesting that unmet needs may lead to fantasizing about “the one that got away.” The speaker emphasizes identifying those needs and finding ways to fulfill them, either by communicating with current partners or meeting the needs independently. Additionally, a specific course at PDS is highlighted as a resource for understanding and meeting personal needs. The speaker also announces a seven-day free trial period for the school from April 21st to May 5th, encouraging viewers to explore the various courses, webinars, and community events available.
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In this part of the video, the speaker addresses the importance of understanding why one might reminisce about past relationships and emphasizes the need to identify unmet needs in the current relationship. They suggest reflecting on past memories and pinpointing what needs were fulfilled during those times, such as feeling validated, connected, or adventurous. The speaker recommends writing down these patterns, understanding which needs are unmet, and developing strategies to address them. Additionally, they highlight the importance of effective communication and being open to receiving support in the current relationship. The goal is to enhance the present relationship dynamics and personal connection by consciously meeting identified needs.