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The YouTube video explores the concepts of blanket consent and free use in BDSM relationships. The importance of open communication, trust, negotiation, and understanding terms and boundaries are highlighted. The video explains that while some may view these practices as potentially abusive, others find deep fulfillment and happiness in them. The distinction between blanket consent and consensual non-consent (CNC) is discussed, with an emphasis on safe words, limits, and the need for clear communication. The speaker also invites viewers to share their thoughts and considerations on these complex dynamics within the BDSM community.
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In this segment of the video, the content creator, Evie Lupine, addresses the difference between blanket consent and free use in a BDSM relationship. Blanket consent refers to giving consent once for all activities in the relationship, without needing to give consent act by act. Safe words and limits are not always prominent in blanket consent agreements. It is emphasized that viewers should be familiar with negotiation basics, affirmative consent, and BDSM models prior to understanding the discussion fully. The conversation may pose ethical challenges from a kink perspective.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses the concept of blanket consent in BDSM relationships. They explain that blanket consent involves giving ongoing consent to a partner, possibly without explicit limits or boundaries. The speaker emphasizes the serious nature of blanket consent, warning against potential risks of attracting predators. They suggest that while blanket consent can be appealing, it should be approached with caution and may be better kept as a fantasy initially. The importance of transparency, trust, and communication in longer-term BDSM relationships is highlighted as crucial for navigating blanket consent safely.
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In this part of the video, the speaker discusses the importance of aligning values as a couple to have “blanket consent” in a BDSM relationship. They emphasize the need for years of open communication and complete trust before delving into this type of relationship. The speaker warns that blanket consent, especially when considered irrevocable, should not be taken lightly and should be thoroughly discussed and understood by both parties. Additionally, the concept of “free use” in BDSM is explained as a dynamic where consent is assumed and the submissive is expected to comply without explicit consent, emphasizing a total authority transfer in the relationship. The distinction between blanket consent and free use is highlighted, with an emphasis on the importance of mutual desire and negotiation in such relationships.
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In this segment of the video, the concept of “free use” in BDSM is discussed. The term refers to a dynamic where consent allows a person to be used in various ways by their Dom or Master, including being given to others for different activities like being a practice dummy, giving a presentation, or participating in an orgy. There are variations in how free use is practiced, such as blanket consent where a person consents to anything their Dom requests or having a sharing clause limiting activities to only with their specific partner. Additionally, the concept of free use is also explored in non-BDSM contexts where it involves a more open and casual approach to sexual activity, with the idea of universal enthusiastic consent being emphasized.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses the importance of understanding terms used in relationships, such as “free use” and “irrevocable consent,” within the context of the BDSM community. The speaker acknowledges the ethical gray area surrounding these concepts and emphasizes the need for open communication and negotiation in relationships. They mention that while some may view such practices as potentially abusive, others find deep fulfillment and happiness in them. The speaker also introduces the term “consensual non-consent” (CNC) as a complex concept within BDSM that is often associated with blanket consent. They highlight the need for dedication and communication in exploring these types of dynamics in relationships.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker explains the differences between blanket consent and CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) in BDSM relationships. CNC involves a mentality of not having consent be considered while blanket consent means having consent for everything going forward. CNC often involves safe words and limits, catering to rough body play, resistance, and other intense play styles. CNC is seen more as a play or scene framework in BDSM, where partners might not know everything that will happen during the scene. The use of safe words and limits is more common in CNC play compared to blanket consent scenarios.
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In this segment, the speaker discusses the importance of safe words in consensual non-consent (CNC) play, highlighting that communication with the Dom or top is crucial as they are not mind readers and may not notice physical issues during a scene. They explain that safe words can be used to indicate unforeseen occurrences and that establishing limits is a key aspect of CNC play. The speaker mentions different interpretations of CNC, emphasizing the need for clear communication, negotiation, and boundaries within the role-play scenario. They caution against using multiple safe words to prevent confusion and stress the importance of mutual understanding and consent in CNC scenarios.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses the concept of consensual non-consent (CNC) beyond just sexual resistance play. They emphasize the importance of not taking CNC lightly, considering its mental and emotional impact on all participants. The speaker stresses the need for careful consideration before engaging in any form of CNC. They wrap up by expressing interest in viewers’ thoughts on CNC and the possibility of doing a follow-up video exploring it in more depth. The speaker clarifies that CNC is not about meeting certain standards in BDSM relationships and that it is a personal journey that varies for each individual. They encourage open communication with partners to ensure mutual understanding of terms and boundaries.
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In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses how different people have varying preferences in BDSM, including enjoying being in total control or mixing elements of control and submission. The key point emphasized is that BDSM is about finding what works for you and makes you happy on your personal journey. The speaker encourages viewers to share their thoughts in the comments, subscribe to the channel for more content, and support their work on Patreon. The segment closes with well-wishes for Easter and the week ahead.