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Valentina opens up about her challenging upbringing in Miami, eventual relocation to Los Angeles, troubled teenage years, and varied employment history, including roles in waitressing, stripping, and escorting. She details her pragmatic approach to sex work, which she balances with her job as an ultrasound technician and schooling, viewing it as a means to support her family. Despite acknowledging the risks and societal stigma associated with her line of work, Valentina maintains a practical perspective, seeing it as a survival strategy rather than something deceitful or shameful.
Throughout the interview, Valentina expresses feelings of depression, stemming back to her childhood, and a recent suicide attempt that led to her being medicated and feeling somewhat better. Her work, while financially rewarding, impacts her mental health, leading to conflicts about self-worth and personal boundaries. Valentina aspires to become a therapist, aiming to draw from her personal experiences to help others.
Valentina also shares several traumatic incidents, including a manipulative and abusive relationship that started when she was 12, which deeply influenced her perception of men and sex work. She details the complexities and emotional tolls of such relationships, alongside grappling with societal judgments and personal struggles. Ultimately, Valentina emphasizes the importance of living in the moment and hopes to use her experiences to foster a better understanding of human connections and mental health.
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In this part of the video, Valentina discusses her background and upbringing with the interviewer. She shares that she grew up in Miami until she was 18 and then moved to New York, eventually settling in Los Angeles for the past five years. Valentina talks about her childhood, noting that both her parents were present but had a strained relationship, staying together primarily for the sake of the children. Despite the challenges, she does not blame them and acknowledges her mother’s anger issues and the occasional disciplinary actions.
Valentina candidly describes her teenage years as troubled, influenced by her environment in Miami, which exposed her to drugs and led to frequent school absences and not completing high school. She attempted to join the military but eventually earned her GED and briefly attended college. Experimenting with various drugs, she avoided the more addictive substances and now only occasionally uses marijuana and drinks wine moderately. The interviewer then inquires about her professional life post-school.
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In this segment, a woman discusses her varied employment history, including waitressing, stripping, and working as an ultrasound technician. Currently, she balances her day job as an ultrasound tech with school and part-time work as an escort, which she refers to broadly as sex work. She explains her preference for escorting over stripping, citing the shorter duration and higher financial return for less time spent. Stripping requires extended hours, a knack for conversation, and can be physically and emotionally exhausting. She notes that escorting, while not without risks, brings a better quality of clientele and allows her to maintain her boundaries and schedule more effectively.
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In this part of the video, the interviewee discusses their experiences and perceptions of their lifestyle and clientele. They acknowledge the dangers, noting a single incident where they were drugged but otherwise no severe issues. The clientele described are predominantly rich, old, lonely, white men, many of whom are married. One particular relationship with a client lasted three years and developed into a cohabiting, loving relationship, despite the transactional nature and financial support involved. The interviewee is currently 25 years old and balancing school with their work. They express a pragmatic approach to their lifestyle, aiming to support themselves and their family, including their mother and sister, with their income.
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In this part of the video, the interviewee explains their efforts to save money and discusses their family’s awareness of their stripping work. They mention trying to live more openly and honestly, despite their family’s preference otherwise. The main motive behind their work is to support their family rather than for luxury. They also discuss the challenges this line of work creates for having a normal relationship, including the mixed reactions from potential partners. The conversation touches on the societal shame linked with sex work, which the interviewee personally does not feel, viewing their work as a survival effort rather than deceitful. They emphasize providing a consensual service and, with their background in psychology, attempt to understand and respect their clients.
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In this part of the video, Valentina shares her experiences and perspectives on interacting with her clients. She mentions that despite being a good listener, clients always seek sex, contradicting what she’s heard from other women. Though she respects her clients from a human standpoint, she finds them generally dishonest and unattractive as potential partners.
Valentina also opens up about her belief in love, emphasizing its varied forms. She cares deeply for her sister and mother, describing significant struggles her mother faced after a divorce, including losing her parents, best friend, house, job, and experiencing severe mental health issues. Valentina recounted caring for her mother, including a traumatic event where her mother attempted suicide. This culmination of hardships has left a profound impact on Valentina.
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In this part of the video, the speaker talks about their long history with depression, noting it started as early as fourth grade without any clear reason. They recount a recent suicide attempt and a subsequent hospitalization, which led to medication that has improved their condition. Discussion shifts to how their work affects their mental health, acknowledging a conflict in selling oneself for money, which can feel like selling a part of one’s soul. They draw parallels between their job and other professions in terms of ‘selling oneself’. The speaker advises those considering similar work to have more stable and fulfilling career options.
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In this part of the video, the interviewee discusses their enjoyment of their current day job due to the human connection it provides, although it is not their life-long ambition. Their ultimate goal is to become a therapist, drawing from personal experiences with broken individuals, including themselves. The conversation shifts to the interviewee’s insights on men, particularly those who hire sex workers. They reveal that their perception of men hasn’t changed significantly through their work. The interviewee recounts an early, troubling introduction to sex work at the age of 12, involving a sexual encounter with a friend’s father, a relationship that complicated their understanding of men and sex work from a young age.
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In this part of the video, the speaker recounts her troubling relationship with a much older man who was sentenced to prison. She explains that they met when he came to visit his daughter and that he fell in love with her. Despite his imprisonment, he maintained contact with her through calls and love letters. When he was released, they continued to see each other, but she felt uncomfortable and trapped, particularly after an incident involving a hotel stay where he pressured her into a sexual encounter. She reveals that this inappropriate relationship began when she was just 12, including moments where he requested explicit photos in exchange for money. She reflects on feeling responsible for ending up in that situation, despite recognizing the problematic nature of the relationship.
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In this part of the video, the speaker reflects on a difficult relationship from her past, where she was manipulated and harassment by an older man who pursued her when she was a teenager. Despite the hardships, including stalking and threats, she eventually received help from a supportive partner to obtain a restraining order. She shares her struggle with self-perception and acknowledges using her looks to her advantage, though she sees herself as a normal person. Her key takeaway from her experiences is the importance of being present and living in the moment. The segment concludes with the interviewer expressing gratitude and well wishes for her future endeavors.