The summary of ‘Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps’

This summary of the video was created by an AI. It might contain some inaccuracies.

00:00:0000:09:20

The video delves into the dynamics and disparities in dating app experiences between men and women, focusing on user behavior and match probabilities. Two friends set up their profiles, with the woman quickly receiving numerous likes and matches, while the man struggles to gain traction. Through simulations, the video reveals significant gender imbalances: women, making up a smaller user base, receive more likes but fewer matches due to limited daily profile views. Men, on the other hand, face intense competition, leading them to like more profiles indiscriminately. The skewed distribution shows that a small percentage of highly attractive users garner the majority of likes. This pattern persists despite attempts to balance the scenario, emphasizing that men's lower match rates prompt them to increase their swiping activity. Ultimately, the video highlights how these discrepancies can impact users' perceptions of dating and self-worth, suggesting that men generally find it harder to succeed on dating apps. It concludes by inviting viewers to share their perspectives and support the channel.

00:00:00

In this part of the video, two friends install a dating app and attempt to set up their profiles. The man carefully curates his profile with various pictures to appear friendly, cultured, and adventurous, while the woman chooses her first available picture due to safety concerns. Their experiences diverge significantly: the woman receives numerous likes and matches, quickly becoming overwhelmed, whereas the man barely receives any likes or matches, leading to frustration and self-doubt. The video then explores why this disparity occurs, delving into the numbers and behaviors behind dating app usage. A simulation of an ideal scenario with equal gender ratios and equal user visibility is performed, revealing that in a balanced situation, both genders would get similar results. However, in reality, there tend to be more male users than female users on popular dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, which significantly impacts match rates.

00:03:00

In this part of the video, the presenter discusses the results of a dating simulation, highlighting significant gender imbalances. With two men for every woman, women receive twice as many likes, while men’s likes are halved. Despite women getting an average of 50 likes, they end up with only about 6 matches because they can only view a limited number of profiles daily. Men receive few likes and therefore become less selective, liking more profiles to increase their match chances. The presenter updates the simulation based on a New York Times article showing men are nearly three times more likely to like profiles than women. This change results in women receiving an average of 92 likes and men only 7, with women ending up with around 6.4 matches per day compared to men’s 3.2. Additionally, attractiveness skews the number of likes, with a small percentage of users attracting a large share of the total likes, further complicating the dating dynamics.

00:06:00

In this segment of the video, the presenter is creating a new distribution where top users get exponentially more likes, while maintaining the average like percentages. Using simplified assumptions due to the lack of real data (0% for unattractive users and 100% for highly attractive users), the simulation shows that 50% of likes from men go to the top 27% of women, and 50% from women go to the top 10% of men, mirroring Hinge’s reported numbers. The simulation’s results stay the same because the group’s overall behavior remains unchanged; however, the like distribution is skewed towards top users. A new metric, the median, reveals that the average male user gets only 1 like and zero matches, while the top 10% of men get 37 likes and more matches than the top 10% of women due to being less selective.

The presenter notes that the simulation is an attempt to mimic dating app dynamics with limited data and does not account for variables such as different cultures, demographics, or premium subscriptions. The key takeaway is that dating apps can distort users’ perspectives on dating, potentially impacting their self-esteem. The imbalance noted in the simulation suggests that men may struggle more to get matches, prompting them to like more profiles to improve their chances.

00:09:00

In this segment of the video, the speaker discusses how women perceive matches on dating apps, noting that men are likely to swipe right on numerous profiles, which can make women question the genuineness of the men’s interest. The speaker then invites viewers to share their thoughts in the comments, encourages them to like and subscribe to support the channel, and thanks the patrons.

Scroll to Top